This digital era has vehemently eroded people’s ability to connect with each other. Many of us have been convinced to keep mouth shut; better not to speak at all than speaking. This is because we don’t have self-confidence.
Almost all of us are living the life for others and making zero efforts to improve our own and this is what has left us wildly insecure, full of self-doubt and confusions. The only solution to this intricate puzzle is confidence and self-belief. Both of them are not innate qualities, much effort, and hard work is required to acquire both.
If you are one of the few willing to acquire extreme self-confidence and want to eliminate chronic worry and anxiety, you need to start helping yourself.
Here is a list of few sure-fire ways which will help you flourish in personal and professional life by conquering the fear and anxiety.
1) If you want a different life, you need to behave differently
“Success is not something that happens to you, it’s something that happens because of you and the actions you take.” (Grant Cardone)
Ponder over the twist and turns every single day and think about the potential changes which you can make. Every day is an opportunity to take and a challenge to overcome. Hence, it is necessary to utilize the life canvas and paint the picture that depicts your future in the best way possible because each brush stroke today will work like a magic wand tomorrow.
2) Conquer dreadful situations
It is true that the most accomplished athlete still get nervous before their event, and great players are nauseous before their final game due to fear and anxiety. However, they act despite fear. They feel the fear and do it anyways.
“Act while you feel fear rather than waiting until you feel unafraid.” -David Richo
Your life will turn around when you stop casually waiting for success and start approaching it as an obligation. Don’t be the one waiting on the sidelines to feel unafraid. If you want to conquer the world around you then it is important to act when you feel the fear.
3) Let’s Face the Avoidable
Seek problem, come up with solutions – don’t avoid them.
Ability to solve problems gives one a distinct advantage over others and open up the path towards success. Dumping your work on someone else might affect personal integrity. There is a common cliche that the world gives givers and takes from takers. So, seek a reputation as “problem solver”.
4) Surround Yourself with Positive Influencers
If it does not add to your success then subtract from it.
It is a generally accepted phenomenon that one’s mood is contagious. Feelings are transferable from one person to another. One possible secret to long term happiness is surrounding oneself with positive influencers. It is really unwise to hang around negative people and expect positive results. If environment, people, media or behavior prevents you from evolving into a better version of yourself then cut them from your life.
5) Avoid Over Thinking
Imagine the worst thing that can happen without exaggerating end results. Though it is panicking or may bring the heart attack but think what would happen next enable you to face the fear of failure. There is a common cliche that fear will run away when you chase it. Confront fearful thoughts without being scared of getting trapped is really hard but this will help you a lot.
Imagining the worst without making your brain a host of negative imagination can lessen the fear of failure, remove the burden of responsibility and give the courage to deal with the upcoming challenges.
6) Don’t Ever Try To Be Perfect
In order to be perfect, it is necessary to accept your imperfections.
It is good to be perfect in one field rather than becoming the jerk of all traits and master of none.
Life is full of stresses and it is common if you are facing bad behaviors someday or mood swings. Bad days and setbacks always happen because life is messy and we all have to encounter everyday challenges.
7) Don’t Try To Please People around You
It is necessary to edify, educate and fulfill your own dreams to please yourself rather than pleasing others. Literally, it is impossible to please everyone around you because people are different in nature if someone tries hard to do that they start depleting themselves which ultimately vanished the sense of happiness and fulfillment from their life.
There is always light at the other end of the tunnel. You only need to stop pleasing people around you and start making efforts to make your dreams come true.
The only thing that matters is doing the right things with a good heart.
8) Fake It Till You Make It
People with a deep desire to change or improve something can do it with little effort and great determination. When you are overcoming the fear and anxiety it is necessary to feel confident or at least pretend to be confident. Fake that behavior with conviction to get there eventually the power of habit will kick in.
Take a moment, close your eyes and imagine a place where can feel happiness. Visualize success as much as possible because this will help you to prepare yourself for walking on a preordained path.
9) Positive Attitude
A positive attitude is something that yields positive outcomes. Expand your horizons and see the great pictures of the possibilities ahead of you. Positive approach towards and the everyday challenges has deep effects and it encourages people to acquire new skills and expertise without the fear of losing.
It seems crazy but let’s celebrates the success of others because life is a journey not a competition and everyone is running their own race. Paying attention to your personal growth is pretty crucial. Once you start putting a value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price.
Last but not least, my humble advice to you is:
“Keep your fears to yourself, but share your courage with others.” – Robert Louis Stevenson